Sunday, July 17, 2011

Summer with 3 boys

A lot of people from here asked me Why I didn’t go with Dennis to the US? How am I doing here by myself with 3 kids? Isn’t hard? Wasn’t better to go with him?
I think I answered those question many, many times these past 5 weeks? So I decided to post here my answers.

I went to US just before Nathan was born. We stayed in 13 houses in 10 weeks. It was very hard. I never unpack. We just scrambled through he clothes and when you couldn’t find them well you start packing again. It was exhausting for me and the kids. We were on the move every week at least once which made so hard to connect with people in one place. 
Also Dennis’s parents health doesn’t allow them to have so much noise. We have 3 boys and they are healthy, normal, energetic boys who need plenty of time to run and play to burn all that extra energy. Trying to keep them quiet in a room or at the meals to sit down for 1 hour or longer surrounded by people in their 70 or 80 it is not a realistic option. 
Also I know that it is easier for Dennis to focus on his parents if he doesn’t need to take care of us. Also made it easier to meet with ministry partners, speak in churches. To try to get 3 kids in the car in the morning and to arrive at the church at least half hour earlier to be ready for your talk and without any frustration that one kids couldn’t find his blue car, the other doesn’t want to wear sandals and you couldn’t find the baby sippy cup -it seems a dream.
Also on my side was easier- keeping the boys here with the same routine, having time to play with them, going  to different places not in hurry, having time to talk and enjoy a more relaxed summer was worthy. My parents also came but they needed to leave earlier as my dad got sick.
So how do I do being here with 3 kids? I think we had a lot of fun. It wasn’t easy as the boys are still small almost 6, almost 3 and 9 month. They still need help with food, clothes, baths, going to bed. But we enjoyed a lot of time together. I was looking forward to be with them as summer is relaxing with no school and no deadlines. We went to library every week, we read on average 15 books/week, we played soccer, we wrestled, we splashed with water, we had picnics, we went to playgrounds, we meet with friends, we went shopping from food to hardware stores (at least I had 2 future men with me so I wasn’t like a woman lost in a wrong store), we went to mall in a super hot day, we played games, watch some movies, and the highlight for the boys was a trip to the Budapest Zoo.

It is an amazing place. I went by myself with 3 kids and Ryan and Kevin walked all day form 11 am till 7 pm. They enjoyed a lot and didn’t want to leave. They close at 7.30pm. We saw so many animals, birds, butterflies, insects, snakes etc. Here are some pictures for you to enjoy.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

4th of July

July 4th passed different for us here than for Dennis who is in US. Ryan was in a bad mood as he pleaded with me for a whole week that we should go to the US for America’s birthday. He wanted to go to a parade and here it is no parade. One of the American couple had us over together with other 50 people. It was nice and even Ryan didn’t want to go anywhere and told me as we arrived there that this is boring,  he had a great time and had a hard time leaving at the end. We ate, talked, played games and sang songs. The pictures show his mood change.
I missed Dennis the most on that day. Not because I had 3 kids to watch as people were so gracious and helped all the time. Some watched Kevin as they were watching their own children, others took the boys to bathroom as I was busy feeding the baby, some hold the baby so I could participate in the games for parent-child, one dad even played in one game with Ryan so I can play with Kevin in the same game. Both boys wanted to play but I was the only parent for both so it was not possible.
I missed to share the day with him, and laugh and hold his hand and just be together. And of course to help me get there. I got lost as usually and took us a good 35 minutes to find that place.
Ryan said on the way there:”I wish daddy was here with us. I wish we could go together to the parade in Ashland. If he was here he will know the way and not driving in circles”. 


Sunday, July 3, 2011

Happy Birthday Buni!

On June 30th we had the joy to celebrate Buni (Grandma)’s Birthday. Ryan was the most excited about her birthday. He asked me couple of day before how old Buni is. I told that she will be 60, 10 times his age. He said: “Wow that is some age I think. When you (mom) will be 60 you will be a grandma too and you will come and visit me. I will be a dad and that time too.” Anyway on the 30th morning I told Ryan that we should say to Buni Happy Birthday when she is coming in the kitchen. Ryan told that Buni is still 59 she is not 60 yet. How come I asked? “She is still 59 till she is blowing the candles from the cake. When you blow the candles from the cake than you change your age but not before.” So till lunch when I planed to have the cake she was still 59.
We went to a Mall with my parents and the boys enjoyed the water fountain. He boys helped to pick some flowers… “golden said Ryan… like Buni age”.” The pink and white one are for little girls but that ones are for real people”.
Buni blowed the candles, not 60 pieces as Ryan wanted so she indeed turned 60. Happy Birthday dear Buni! Happy Birthday and may the Lord give you many, many more happy years my dear mom!

Friday, July 1, 2011

Weeks of sickness

We still have more than 2 weeks till Dennis come back. It seems he is gone for a LONG LONG time. I miss him a lot. I miss his smile, his laugh, his hugs, his companion throughout the days. The boys are missing him a lot and I can see Nathan is missing him deeply. Yesterday at the pool he saw a man tall and dark hair like Dennis so he crawled to him and hang on his arm. When he turned he realized was not daddy so he let him go but his face dropped.
We kept busy here.
I took Ryan to swimming lessons. He was very good and tried his best. He never complained that he doesn’t want to go back. But yesterday he told me “I am glad that this is the last time”.
I am not sure what he learned as the teacher didn’t speak English and he was with other 12-15 hungarian kids. The interesting part was that I took Ryan to the dressing room and I never could go to see what he was doing in the swimming class. Parents are not allow to step in the pool room. So all the parents said goodbyes to their children in the dressing room and one of the pool employees come and take all of them to the class and after 1 hour they will bring your child back. You don’t even have a chance to talk with the teacher.  I am glad that is over too. We will try to do some swimming on our own when the weather is turning back to summer. It is 56F right now, windy and rainy.

Since Dennis left we got one sickness after the other.  Nathan was sick. He got a rash on his body. As my parents were here I decided to take him to the doctor as I didn’t want to contaminate everybody else. I thought that he has the fifth disease (one of the childhood illness). Ryan got it from the school and had it in the last weeks of school. I went to the doctor (the one who saw Ryan when he was sick) and she told me no Nathan has just an allergic reaction. To what? She didn’t know. We stopped all the solids and went back to nursing exclusively. Somehow the same night Nathan got stomach flu. So I didn’t sleep all night trying not “to paint” our carpet. The bad part was that my parents got the bug. I decided to do something fun for the boys on Sunday afternoon as my parents were feeling bad. We decided to go for a picnic, to fly a kite and then for an ice cream treat . I took all 3 boys and headed for a hill. Thank the Lord that I decided to go closer not on far away drive. We arrived, started to  hike and Kevin was telling me that he wants to go back home because he needs a bathroom . We tried to fly a kite but it was no wind anymore, so I told Ryan lets go back to the car. Kevin is very pale by now but he wants to go and walk more. So we decided to walk till a little meadow . We just arrived and Kevin is collapsing on the ground . I just turned for a second thinking to put Nathan down in the grass too, when Kevin is starting to throw up.  So we stayed a little longer there as I didn’t want to clean the car. Ryan is sad now because our plans for the evening are all “messed up”. I drove home as fast as I could praying that Kevin will not have any accidents in the car. Ryan is quite emotional by now, he is upset but he is also fearful. (He got scared seeing little Nathan throwing up. “Mom he is so small. Please don’t let him die. Please do something for him”)
We got Kevin in bed with a bucket near by, and then I had a date with Ryan. We went up on the balcony and had a little of “daddy ice cream”. (“We still saved some for you Dennis”).

Of course Nathan has the fifth disease. He got the red checks and the lacy rash. And guess what…Kevin is getting it too now. The rash can last for 3 weeks so just before Dennis is coming back we will be over it.